The president of an organization I work with was complaining about being second guessed. He had made an unpopular decision and everyone, it seemed, thought they could have done better.
My advice: Get used to it. Being second-guessed goes with the territory. Often the only people who will truly sympathize with you are other leaders who have the same thing happen to them.
This is one reason why “Big L” leadership–leadership at the top with a title–isn’t for everyone. We’re all sensitive to criticism, some more than others. We may never enjoy being second guessed but we need to get over being bothered by it.
Clint Hurdle, coach of the Colorado Rockies puts it well. He says, “I wish I’d read the book. Everyone else has read it–the book that explains what I should have done instead of what I did during the game. There must be a book and everybody has read it except me.”
When you’re a leader others who almost always have far less information believe they could have done better. Maybe. But more likely if their decisions were really better, they’d be the leader instead of you.